Podcasts
Nobody realizes the number of things to consider with online dating. These podcasts will provide you with the proper insight into the processes for using Online Dating Services. You can view the podcasts in any order, but I recommend viewing them numerically as they build on each topic.
The podcasts will include different guests to share their personal experiences on each topic. Make sure to visit this site periodically to view newly added guest podcasts on additional topics.
If you have ridden the rollercoaster already and you'd like to share some of your experiences (Good or Bad), please send us an email. If selected, we’ll contact you for permission to either mention your experiences on a future podcast or offer you to be a guest on a future podcast.
#1 - Why would I use a dating site?
Online dating is not for everyone and it's not a perfect system. Just because you pay a fee, it doesn't mean you will meet your perfect match. So, you will experience some let downs. However, it is the most convenient way to get exposure to a large amount of people. You may find someone immediately or it may take months to years to find your match.
#3 - Divorced, Seperated, Widowed, Never Been Married, Never had kids or Still have kids still at home/part-time
Regardless of your personal interests, your present status can make a difference for the peopole you are interested in. If you are married, and want to venture out, the person you are pursuing may only want unattached people. This is yet another thought to consider when identifying a site to meet your expectations. Don't get caught up in multiple services to find your perfect connection.
#5 - Managing your account.
Every site has a place to manage your account and your profile. Profiles will be discussed in another podcast. Managing your account properly is extremely important. Do not take this category lightly.
#7 - Avoid making a laundry list
The thing that really turns off other people is creating laundry lists. Finding your perfect match is about connecting with that person. Not what they can offer you or live up too. Instead of making your laundry list, display what you've loved in past relationships. This session dives into the reality of knowing what makes a great connection.
#9 - Navigating through the dating site
Site navigation is the first item everyone gets frustrated with. Every site is built with unique capabilities for different types of people. Theses options will enhance searching and can increase your exposure. However, the more options the more complexity. Regardless, these options are important. So, understanding how to navigate through the site will increase your ability to be successful.
#11 - How to understand their thoughts
Aside from online dating, trying to guess what the other person is thinking or feeling has always been a relationship issue. Online dating puts another level of guessing since the other person is still viewing other people. Texting is initially required, but it's not meant for full conversations. Texting can or will eventually get misunderstood. Here we'll review behavior patterns to understand if the other person is really interested or not.
#13 - Getting matched with your Ex
One thing that can feel very uncomfortable is getting matched with your Ex. If you both join the same service, you can almost guarantee this will happen. Aside from being uncomfortable, it can create a huge amount of anxiety, anger, depression, or it may draw you back together. Whatever it could be, you'll have to come to grips with it. Here we'll review the circumstances how other people have handled their situations.
#15 - Beware of "Serial Daters" or "Dating Loopers"
There are people that will string you along. They are not out to hurt you as they do it without thinking. The excuse is, I just can’t find the right person. The other name for this is “Dating Loopers”. It’s a common thing with most people using the service. You initiate a connection, and you get distracted with new matches, causing you to ghost the last person. However, this happens back to you as well. Thus, creating a continuous loop, where it’s never ending.
#17 - Why can't I find a match?
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There is no guarantee for meeting your perfect match. This can get frustrating and cause you to take a break or completely cancel your service. This session analyzes all the things people have done wrong, which could inhibit your ability to find a match.
#19 - Communicating off the site
Giving out your phone number or email address has some risks. However, at one point or another you will need to exchange your information. This session will review other options to avoid providing personal information and how to identify red flags.
#21 - 1st date preparation
Location choice is very important
Your first date will set the tone for the ability to continue. Before you go on your first date, you should agree on closer to you or them or somewhere inbetween. This session we'll go into detail for the best and worst places for a first date. Your choice of locations can make you look good or bad.
#23 - 1st date preparation
Getting Catfished or Ghosted
You expect everyone to resemble their pictures when you first meet them but when they show up, you may not even recognize that person. Either they lied about their age, or their pics were very old. Ultimately, that displays a liar they and can't be trusted. They may not even show up, which is Ghosting. So, do you exit stage left or confront them or politely stay for a brief conversation? There are multiple options, so you aren't viewed as a rude person.
#25 - 1st Date
Dealing with Stalkers
All relationships start with the best intentions. However, something eventually goes wrong. This can happen after the 1st date or after multiple dates. Instead of going your seperate ways, your recent partner chooses to stalk you. This can happen whether you are using an online dating service or you met someone organically. Here we'll review all your options on how to handle a potential risky situation.
#27 - 2nd date
Getting better
Being on a second date is a good sign, but it can still fall apart if you make the wrong moves. Since the 1st date went well, pick up where you left off. Make sure to follow the previous recommendations for location, dress, pay, and conversation. However, you should be more comfortable and have fun with the conversation. Above all, do not discuss your relationship regarding your Ex. If all goes well, you should give a hug and kiss at the end of the date.
#29 - Agreeing to cancel subscription
Confusion of exclusivity. One may assume you are exclusive and the other feels you are just having fun. Communication is the key practice in any relationship. If you both agree to be exclusive, have fun with it. Celebrate you are both cancelling your dating service and confirm you both have cancelled. If you don’t confirm, one can always say, “I meant to do it but got distracted and forgot.” That’s a normal trick of a serial dater. Hopefully, it’s what you both want.
#31 - Returning to the dating service
After a breakup, you decide to return to the dating site and start over but with more experience for what to expect. However, with experience, you should not have your guard up too much or be too selective. This is very common and it can possibly make you pass by the right person without realizing it.
#2 - Casual Dating vs Hookups vs Long Term Relationships leading to marriage
After you've decided to use a dating service, you then need to identify what your interests are. This area is very personal and it allows you to date in a circle of people with the same interests. This is something you want to be sure about, as you will be paying upfront for the site. So, be sure you know what you want before you signup and pay for the service.
#4 - Choosing the right dating site.
With your personal preferences and individual status, you can now choose from the hundreds of sites that can fulfill your desires. The differences consist of cost, popularity, functionality, country, religion, financial status, intelligence, politics, etc. Here we’ll explore the most popular sites and options that matter. In addition, you may consider joining more than one service to expand your opportunities. If you do, don’t be surprised if you find many of the same people on the other sites as well.
#6 - Creating the best profile.
Having a great profile is the key factor for someone else to find you. Think of it as your resume for a job. If your resume doesn't stand out well enough, it will get thrown in the garbage.
#8 - Everyone has baggage or some type of drama
We've all had some type of drama from past relationships. That's why you are single now. If you express you have no drama or baggage, you are exposing you are a liar. It's okay to express you've gone through some turmoil in past relationships. Its how you display what you've overcome and moving forward. This session reviews how to discuss past relationships without displaying ongoing drama.
#10 - Selecting & communicating with your potential match
After you get through the management portion, setting up your profile and navigating the site, you will need to understand how to effectively approach people. Remember, they don't know you and you don't know them and translations can or will get misunderstood in the initial texing phase. Therefore, you need to understand how to properly present yourself without being too shy or overbaring.
#12 - Choosing a connection with children. Is it right for you?
The thing that really turns off other people is creating laundry lists. Finding your perfect match is about connecting with that person. Not what they can offer you or live up too. Instead of making your laundry list, display what you've loved in past relationships. This session dives into the reality of knowing what makes a great connection.
#14 - Finding partner on dating site
This happens way too often where a friend notifies you, they found your partner on a dating site. Can you say, “Caught Red Handed”. However, before you confront your partner, make sure you absolutely can confirm it’s them. Some sites leave profiles up after your subscription has expired. Plus, this can be a known scammer trick. They will use your pics and profile to scam others. Take the proper steps to confirm.
#16 - Ghost them or express you are no longer interested
This has become a normal thing now. Whether you are just texting, talking on the phone or physically dating. The other person just stops communicating and you have no idea why. Most often, it seems like you are getting along great and then the other person just stops responding. This session we'll review the indicators for this type of behavior. Sometimes this could be a Serial Dater or Dating Looper.
#18 - How to spot a scammer
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There are scammers for men and women. You will eventually encounter a scammer at one time or another. Its almost a guarantee. Some of the scammers are professionals and they have great techniques to trick and take advantage of you. Learn how to spot them, report them and most of all, protect yourself.
#20 - Background checks before you meet in person
You know nothing about your new connection but they still seem perfect. What are your options for looking into the backgroud of your new connection? If you do find some odd or not so good information, what should you do?
#22 - 1st date preparation
Conversation topics
You both may be perfect for each other, but first date conversations can be difficult to initiate. It can seem like a blind date, which is somewhat awkward. There are a number of first date questions to ask. However, you want to have engaging feed back instead of questions that allow for one word answers. Here we'll review the ice breakers to get both people engaged in the conversation. The right level of conversations can lead to a nice relationship.
#24 - 1st Date
Crazy Stories
Aside from a successful date, here are some interesting stories from unbelievable experiences. Some funny and some crazy, but also entertaining. Then there are the situations that can be hazardous. This session will review some common indicators to help you recognize an environment that can be dangerous. Staying safe and knowing what to do is your number one objective.
#26 - 1st date
The way it should be
As first dates can be awkward and feel like a blind date, your prep can alleviate some of the stress once you are together. First agree on the perfect place. Discuss how both of you will dress and who will pay. If there is chemistry and a good conversation, it allows for a hug and or a kiss and it promotes a 2nd date. Or, what if you don't feel anything. How do you end the date? Many variables to review on this podcast.
#28 - 3rd date
Looks like a connection
You now added trust to the connection. The location can be more of an interactive fun activity or a nice dinner. If you agree on a 4th date, you are on your way to "Lock in Your Love". You should then talk about getting off the site and becoming exclusive. If that's what you both are looking for. Intimacy may have been initiated by now, or it will probably happen soon enough. Sharing and communication is key continue.
#30 - After 2 to 3 months into dating
In the first 2-3 months of the relationship, both of you are usually on your best behavior. After that, you start feeling more comfortable and some of the real personalities start to come out. Even if the first month or two was great, this is a critical time as those real personalities can actually end the relationship real fast. But maybe that's a good thing. Proper communication will help and is extremely important to every relationship.
#32 - Expect to see many of the same people back online again
Don't feel embarrased when returning to the dating site. Most likely, you will see a number of the same people you've seen in the past. As noted on the other podcasts, there is no guarantee to find your perfect match with online dating. Just know, that it takes time.